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Hernia or Psoas?
Correct.
Not all hernias cause pain with lifting, coughing, getting out of a car. You have to look at the whole spectrum of symptoms that it presents.
That said, the best is to be seen and evaluated in person to really know what is your diagnosis. The examination is very important as well.
I hope you can get help at the Shouldice Clinic, but if you cannot, please do revert back. I and others in the US are eager to give women such as yourself help in diagnosing your pain, even if it is not a hernia.